There seems to be this rush to put ourselves and others in boxes and categories. To some extent this serves a practical purpose but sometimes, when we try to categorize ourselves, it creates internal conflict. This is largely based on how we think we’re perceived by others.
OK, so you’re looking for an answer to the question. Well, you’ll know when you know. It might take a while to sort through your feelings and that’s just fine. Many people live part of their life as heterosexual and then find that their sexual orientation has shifted. It’s all quite normal.
Many lesbians know from early childhood that they were attracted to women – sometimes exclusively to women. Most of them repressed those feelings and felt different, maybe isolated. They learned not to share their crushes on friends of the same sex. For many this was oppressive and harmful. It may have taken them quite some time to come to terms with the fact that they were in fact lesbian.
If you find yourself attracted to women, fantasizing about them, and men are repulsive (in a sexual way) then you are probably a lesbian. If an attractive woman gives you the butterflies in the stomach feeling and leaves you weak in the knees but men do absolutely nothing for you, then my dear, you don’t need me to tell you that you’re a lesbian.
It is a myth that lesbians hate men. Some probably do but most don’t. Everybody is a little different, but I dare say that many lesbians find men attractive. It’s just that they may not find them sexually attractive or they may just not be inclined to be sexually active with men. I know several lesbians who enjoy looking at naked men. I know of lesbians who have had an occasional tryst with a man. It’s not unheard of.
Other women seem inherently bisexual in nature. They may find women or men equally attractive, or they may find one sex more appealing than the other. There are no rules here. For some the realization of their bisexuality came gradually, and at any point in life. Some realize and explore their bisexual feelings early on while others wait until adulthood or even their senior years to give into their bisexual urges.
Figuring out your sexuality can be confusing and scary. Only you can determine if you’re lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual and anything you decide is up to you. It’s also OK to just be bi-curious and explore the possibilities.
How to Keep Your Lesbian Dating and Lesbian Lifestyle More Private
Lesbian dating is much more accepted today than it ever was and the giant number of lesbian dating and lesbian singles sites online verifies that. Today lesbian dating and lesbian dating sites are just as mainstream as other singles websites.
There is still plenty of desire on a greater part of the lesbian community to maintain privacy regarding their lifestyle for a variety of reasons including professional. After all if you are a manager of a large corporation and somebody important was to see you in public kissing another woman what impact that may have on your career?
A greater number of lesbian women however prefer to keep it private merely because they have not fully embraced and accepted that lifestyle themselves so it is more of a self-esteem issue than anything else.
The first tip to keeping your lesbian dating and lifestyle more private – meet lesbian singles at dating websites online. This way the only people who know about your meeting other singles are the other people on the dating site and whoever you choose to reveal to. I suppose in this example the only way your lifestyle can become exposed is if there is somebody who is a member of the lesbian dating website that you are and it is somebody that you know. There are many fine high-quality lesbian dating websites today one that stands out in the front of my mind being LDate with memberships starting at around $29 for one month.
The second tip to keep your lesbian singles and lifestyle more private when you actually go out on dates with your lesbian lady friends arrange dates to places out of town. This affords you a much lower risk of being seen by somebody that you know. The added benefit to this is visiting locations, restaurants, etc., that maybe you would have never visited before.
A third tip to keep your lesbian lifestyle private and to yourself first, regarding your feelings and need to keep your lifestyle private, don’t hide this from your lady partner. There is nothing wrong with you feeling this way and she should know about it. You may be surprised to find that when the day comes that one of your lady dates becomes more than just a date and somebody who is truly special that you will find your need for privacy regarding your lesbian lifestyle vanishes as you realize your feelings for your new found love are vastly more important than the public’s opinion of your lifestyle.